It’s a tough old world for the party scene out there. Money is tight, we are all struggling to pay bills and now you are facing the expense of a children’s birthday party.
Have you ever considered the impact of gender stereotyping when it comes to expense?
What on earth do I mean?
Well I shall explain.
So many times as a children’s birthday party entertainer, I see the host struggling to keep up with the party tea, handing out blue/car boxes to boys and pink/ fairy boxes to girls. Sometimes they are left with odd numbers or an unexpected child turns up and they only have the opposite gender box, posing a tricky situation. You try getting a boy to eat his sausages and sandwiches and crisps from out of a pink fairy box. It isn’t easy.
The same applies for party table ware and balloons. It is also very noticeable at going home time and the party bags come out. In that mad scrum of leaving and finding shoes and bags and coats, it is really an unnecessary extra effort to have to provide the appropriate pink or blue gendered going away gift.
Children really don’t care much about this gendered thing, trust me. Adults are laying on the expectations for them. Why do we have to gender the decor or the party table ware? Unless your theme is pink and girly or Thomas the Tank engine, you are really making things hard for yourself. All this gender stereotyping stuff serves to do is alienate boys if things are all pink , causing them to act up or vice versa. There are plenty of themes out there that are gender neutral, why not take advantage of their potential.
Think about animals. Every child loves animals whether it is a Jungle or Farm theme or Teddybear’s picnic, there is potential for joy without having to do something different for each gender.
Instead of pink or blue tableware, why not try bright primary colours? There is nothing more visually pleasing than a table decked out in vivid rainbow colours.
Ikea do very cheap and good quality sets . If you are looking for very special finger puppets, I make my own one off story finger puppet sets available online in my folksy shop. One simple gift nicely wrapped in gender neutral colours is just as appreciated as a gendered bag full of plastic tat and sweets. I’ve even seen children going home proudly clutching their very own daffodil in a pot, or a strawberry plant. Be creative. There is more to childhood than turning our kids into princesses and pirates at every opportunity. Sometimes it is good to just let them be kids and it is considerably cheaper and far less hassle.
And if you are wondering, as a lady entertainer I am personally partial to pink and tutus and all things sparkly. But I do like a bit of rainbow thrown in for variety. Let’s open our minds to the possibilities of gender neutral and save ourselves a few pounds in the process. Can’t be bad.
- 10 Ideas For Gender-Neutral Children’s Rooms (casasugar.com)
- Gender Neutral Parenting (parenting.blogs.nytimes.com)
- Nurturing nature, I’m pretty sure. (campfire-song.com)
- The Silly Storm over Storm (psychologytoday.com)
- too pink or too blue? (motheringspirit.wordpress.com)